We cannot choose what happens to us, but we can always choose how we feel about it …
My formula for greatness in a human being is amor fati:
that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity.
Not merely bear what is necessary, still less conceal it … but love it.
Nothing can bring more joy to life than fulfilling relationships.
We can do much to increase our chances of having wonderful relationships and a joyful life. Communicating in a relationship can sometimes lead to interesting conversations and debates. Telling each other, what we are thinking and feeling, and increasing trust.
Sometimes, people expect too much of the other person, put too much weight on the own interests, or discuss in an egoistic way. Taking into consideration, that the other person could be hurt or disappointed, is overlooked. Only the own goal is important.
People are not perfect and relationships break. So while we try to have more patience for others, we need their patience as well. Patience is too often a big problem. People have unlearned to have patience with others. They want to see results immediately. Patience wins – always. So we would do well to learn to have more patience.
Simply said, relationships work better when we are friendly with others. When we have empathy and compassion. The friendlier you are the more you are going to have people around you who want to pursue lasting relationships with you. So treat people with a great deal of friendliness and you will see your relationships improve.
A big problem is also loyalty! In upcoming problems people are often not loyal anymore. Loyalty is often a missing element in many relationships. We simply have forgotten what it means to be loyal.
WHAT YOU SHOULD LEARN
What is important in upcoming problems and difficulties:
Despite problems we can always choose how we feel.
We are not obliged to suffer from our own sorrow and sadness.
When something bad had to happen, AMOR FATI ( a love of fate) is the response.
Don’t waste a second looking back at your past and problems.
Go forward, with a little smile
When the event had to happen, then it had to be like that.
In overcoming problems, we emerge stronger.
Acknowledge later, that it was for the best.
What do you do when something bad happens?
Comments are welcome.
( Karin Sebelin )
I am Karin Sebelin,
cross-cultural leadership and branding expert from Germany,
your personal coach for bringing your personality to success.
I am a professional writer, author of 2 German children’s books, and co-author in an anthology.
I am author of the book “Trust …. the only kind of influence that really matters”
Currently I am writing my next book about ethics.
How can I help you?
Let’s have a chat on Skype, write me an email or phone.
12/25/2015 / Karin Sebelin / 0
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