We all like it when we are popular and welcome in a group of people.
And being seen as a smart person that is liked or loved by everyone is certainly attractive and leads to happiness.
But being seen like a “star” has also disadvantages. We too often don`t realize it .. but one day people only see us as positive and fantastic, as this ideal personality.
People then often exaggerate their behavior, tend to praise us steadily and will try to impress us to increase the own influence.
What has this to do with honesty?
Right .. nothing!
My personal experience:
When reading my story
you may learn …
- What it means to be this “number one” in a network of 600.000 members whom everyone loves
- That success is NOT everything
- That people are more important than success
- That following a new path is sometimes necessary when we want to be credible and want to be respected
- That having a “number one” role can lead to distrust by some people, can lead to false friends, can lead to abuse of the own charity and kindness
With popularity we too often leave the path for serious discussions, for honest feedback and for meaningful relationships.
Can our brain be challenged when people say steadily “Yes!” ? No!
“Try never to be the smartest person in the room. And if you are, I suggest you invite smarter people … or find a different room. In professional circles it’s called networking. In organizations it’s called team building. And in life it’s called family, friends, and community. We are all gifts to each other, and my own growth as a leader has shown me again and again that the most rewarding experiences come from my relationships.” ~ Michael Dell, University of Texas, 2003
Wisdom comes from learning from other opinions, from honest feedback .. not from exploiting a position. ~ Karin Sebelin