You just experienced a bad situation .. life tested you extremely and your feelings are challenged.
So how do you react?
Are you angry, and disappointed? Do you feel hurt and victimized?
Or are you in such a rage, that you have the urgent desire to hurt the other person, too? Do you feel the spontaneous need to blame and punish the other person? An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth – like that? Does hurting the other person give you satisfaction and contentment?
Be careful – there is a quote:
An eye for an eye will make the whole world blind. ~ Mahatma Gandhi
Do you want to position yourself on the same level as the other person?
The challenge is to turn a negative experience into a positive one — that is, to learn from the experience and to seek the wisdom behind. Only when we learn from a bad experience and become a better human being we find inner peace. When we try to solve conflicts and problems through a false behavior in our outer world, we will cause steadily new conflicts. Only with our heart we see right. Our heart shows us the way. It prevents us from a false behavior.
Anger and confusion can paralyze us – indeed. However punishing and hurting the other person instead of generating solutions does not improve the situation. Our anger creates new anger and in the end the whole world cries.
Wise people quickly move back from “disturbances of the system” to the old “state of system”. They learn to forgive, are patient and show trust again.
Their focus is strictly forward.
NOW BE HONEST …
When something bad happens to you, do you seek revenge?
Does your anger lead to bad reactions?